June-July-

its been up's and downs....

1.       July -Went to Durban July, totally unplanned and I have a fabulous time.

June –I met Cyber…. August unfriended Cyber-some people come into your life for a very short tym but they make a big impact…**Heart broken**

15 June had a car accident- Had a huge access to pay

August 29 had another accident…..access AGAIN----

  

Went to sun city for a two day a getaway with my family …great experience

Took my son on his 1^st Gautrain ride and he LOVED it.

   

12 Sep i just found out I have two assignments due –planning to submit by the 13th

June and July have been such a roller coaster… “LIFE”

Life

Life

At 28… I sometimes think I have had a long life, but when you look at people who are 40- 50 -60 …you then realise gee…I have not lived long at all.

So why do we end up feeling like things are too tough and ohh my life is difficult, and things I just not working out for you…I mean…really I’m only 28….

Anyway…just to account for what I think I know…

What I have learned-

Life is ….…I have led myself to believe that one has to work hard to able to achieve your goals and vision… and i still think that’s true… with hard work or should I say with passionate work we are bound to achieve our goals and visions…

I’ve learned that my son is a blessing… he has taught  me more about life than any other experience… what he has taught me is… patience is what it is patience…wait for things/ human to be or what they need to be when  they are ready to be…… I have learned that the plan will not always work out the way you planned it… and its ok.. You can either choose to take step back and let the plan be what it will be.. Or works with what you have and redirect it to your designed outcome… both solutions are just solutions there’s nothing perfect or rite answer

So thanks to Sphe for that….he walked when he wanted , he spoke when he wanted to, he smiled at me when I had shouted at him 1 min ago….. He has taught me it’s ok to FORGIVE.. Wow, I can’t even believe I wrote that… he is a great guy.. Sphe Ngiyabonga.

I have learned that you never stop learning.. .. Life just keeps cumin at you.. When you think you have it all figured out… something new comes up. .. So I have concluded that change is going to happen weather I like it or not… and that I may like some changes ..And I might not like others,,, but mostly the NB part is when change happens I allow it.. With its pro and cons..

I have learned it’s hard to accept… failure, sorrow, lack of achievement, pain…. And that it’s ok to have a difficult time…it's ok to be miserable, it’s ok to stay in that state… you don’t have to be ok all the time..But all of this is hard for me to do… I think I learn to relax and adjust almost every day… I tend to always be the strong gal….I’m leaning slowly but surely.

Something I’m getting exposed to is God grace…. I never use to relay so much on God.. But lately I’m beginning to allow him into my life... some time I just leave it to Him…and I’m loving this experience of not being miss perfect…

Just this week …I learned that God Loves me so much,…but most important I learned that I LOVE him more…I was in church and we were sing a song about knowing God etc… and I had these feeling of a girl has when she meets a guy she like,,,, I was actually blushing in church every time I thought of the idea of my love for God I smiled even more…. I can’t explain this but…I know it’s a good feeling and I plan to remind myself of this feeling as often as I can… don’t get me wrong I’m not saying I had a divine moment..I’m just saying I was happy to be in God’s space and it was fun letting him into mine

So my life has had its ups and downs… but mostly I have learned to wake up in the morning and live….

Do the same…

Love Miss Mpela.

Durban July

ciao.

Thee Durban July 2nd July

This past weekend was the Durban July, and my good friend and I decide the grace the July with our presence…. So this is how the trip started. On Friday afternoon we were still finalising items for our outfits. So we ended up leaving Gauteng at 7pm -not surprising!!

Dee was feeling sick so I had to drive 600km…. it was a long drive, but worth it.

 We finally got to durb @ 00:00, changed into party dresses and started the durbs life of not sleeping. We went to a party yakwa” Mabeleni”…. It was a private pre-party to the Durban July…; the party was fun and packed.

                                                                            

          

The food and drinks were on the house…rich people…… Hai…. Anyway… just as I was dancing up a storm and mingling with the crown… I see with my little eye….a  Mr TJ…and crew…as expected he come over greeted and so did his crew…he started offering us drinks bla bla bla… I have never felt so cam around TJ , usually I would get excited etc,..

But this time I was just lied back and enjoying myself as if he wasn’t there…. I loved that feeling..I finally let go of him.  Anyway we left the party @around 3am… saving ourselves for the next day.

Saturday morning, my cousin u Ntombi decided to join us at the July so we had to go and get her an outfit...etc. so last minute shopping began.. Which ended around 2pm… went back to the apartment to get dressed. Finally left the house to the July at 4pm.

We had access to the MTV pimp my crown Marquee, which I must say was the best Marquee @ the July, it even won 1^st prize for the deco follow the link“http//:mtv-base/mtv-base-marquee-wins-best-hospitality-facility-award-at-the-2011-durban-july/”.

 The theme for the July this year was Royal. So we were dressed as royal solders, Sexy Royal solders…lol..

The event is really about mingling and socializing.. I mean the horse's had finished racing at 5pm and we were still at the event at 11pm ….it’s one of those events were no body want o go home.. . And when the race course closes the are plenty of after parties to attend.. Needless to say we went back home to change from our glamorous out fits into party outfit..

We went to the MTN after party but I guess we were just too exhausted, stayed there for an hour and went back home to sleep.

Sunday was a very relaxed day. Woke up late @ 10am.. Hooked up with Joe-a friend from Pta for breakfast at Tasha’s gateway… we stayed there till 4pm having breakfast and we finally we decide to hit the road and drive back to Jozi….

I truly enjoyed myself... but i don’t think I would do it again , it’s one of those things you do once in your life nje……….

My African Politics

I’m a proud support of the ANC – also known as the African National Congress…this is one of the biggest political parties in my country, which have for many years fought for the right of black people. … Many years later with The ANC being in power (government) people’s life have been improved. ….

          

ANC logo. And voting day in May…there’s no secret which party I voted for…black and yellow..lol.

But today my blog is not about South African politics …it’s about African Politics. About 4 months back North Africa- Egypt , Libya, Sudan  had political uprising…These uprising have come about because of the dictatorship of the leaders in those countries… Africa Leader tend to stay in power for more than 30yrs and that leads to mis-alignment to need of people in 1980 and 2011…mean 30 years later…my need as a human will definitely change… so people have become tied of the old school governance and the greed that comes with 30yrs of being in power.. Never the less…we as Africans have a lot to change within the way we run our continent. Course truly speaking there is so much wealth from the ground that we could be the next 1st world country..…

But and this is a big but.. our shortfalls does not and I repeat does not give NATO ,ICC, America, Britain the right to come into our continent and demand one of our own. The western countries have just taken over what I call home..The next thing I know Africa will be called the Small America-

Yes we get funding from these countries but it does not give them the right to come kill people in the name of helping us… this has become a nom… A rich African country will have a problem with its government and the next thing you see will be American troops moving in to come give the rebels a helping hand,…this does not only destroy lives but for America it’s an opportunity to destroy something so they again can fix it…

So in principle.. they help destroy what you have built and they then come back to fund you built the same thing….I’m not a politician by education but I don’t think it takes a bright spark to see that America is keeping its economy of defence and arms by continuously getting into war for no particular reason…

They have created a monster when they imposed war on Iraq now they have to keep feeding that monster by finding wars that don’t exist…….

Im worried about which coun try is next...

In my life today

I had a wonderful weekend...  BROKE and all. I spent my Friday with the Spheza.
Sat morning, sorted out my business issue-paperwork and all. I will reveal my business interest soon, when it’s taken off the ground…Then i hooked up with Mr F and an old friend Mr “30mil”. Sunday cooked up a storm and read the Sunday news papers, all in all, a fabulous weekend.  

So ...what has been done on the 2011 list?

Task	Comment	Status
Find love	I want to find a partner who will be part of my life and I part of his...........	Incomplete
Spheza School	Sphe loves his new school. Spheza amd mommy	Complete
A new JOB	It’s been a challenge to get a new job, but I know the All Might has a plan so, I’m not too worried about this.	1% progress
Phenomenal woman NGO	Trying to set up an event for Thembisa hospital, having a meeting with the matron on Friday 27 May. June we must have our 1st Phenomenal event	20% progress
Azali	Currently we (my biz partner Dee) busy trying to re-instate the company at cipro.. Busy sorting out vat, tax..Certificates…it on.. in no tym we will be running our 1st project.. whoop whoop …this is going to be big…..	20% complete
Go to cape town	Had a fabulous tym…..did some surfing with my bro Nipho. The boys lived in the pool the whole week…it was a heated pool… The views in CPT were breath taking. Nipho and i...in our surfing gear Nipho and Spheza in their new bed....they lived in the heated pool The views in cape town were breath taking..	Complete
Go to Europe or NYC	Still not too sure if this trip will be this yr, but we will see, I have so many of my friends in NYC so I would not struggle with accommodation. I just have to sort out my plane tickets…	10% progress
Save money towards my house	Jhooo…  I have not even saved a cent towards this…the trip to CPT just messed my budget up. But I will recover. I’m giving myself one month to start saving…	No progress
Save money for 30th b-day	Ok here goes,,,, I’m not interested in doing the big gala dinner for my 30th anymore…I used to go on and on about this but for some reason I have lost interest.	Under review
Finish my vision board	I have moved my vision board form the book shelves to my dressing area, so I can see it every day, hopefully It will remind me of all the good this to come in my life…	50% progress
My big 28th birthday party	Zee party was grate....everybody looked fab..even TJ was there..*blushing*	Complete

Mother's day.

Little did I know that my blog on the 6 May would have such an influence on my weekend? (Mother’s day).

 In short I had an extremely bad mother’s day, thanks’ to myself for letting one person influence my feelings.. (Dumbest thing I’ve done this year).

I found myself sad and miserable at the fact that  BD was not going to acknowledge that its mother’s day and he was not sending a present…etc .Anyway not to bore you with this BD -Mother’s day story….. I ended up not celebrating mother’s day,, and sadly the people I truly care about in my life suffered from my actions ” My mom and my son” .So lesson learned…. It’s not about what you receive but about what you give…. Sorry to My Son and Mom for being such an ungrateful daughter and mom…..

xoxo...

It's a beautiful friday 6 may 2011

Today was one of those autumn day ,where the air is chilled and the sun is shining gently.... so my day began @ 5:45 am,,, the alarm went off,,,, to which I only got out of bed at 6am.
Took a bath while listening to my son singing a..b..c..d..e..f..g... (With the twinkle little star tune) if you get what I mean...
Dropped Mr Man at crèche. Then off to work. Which was "work"... meetings here, meetings there...
Its 3:15pm and I can't wait to go home. I spoke to TJ today- always a pleasure chatting to him...made plans to hook up next week, so looking forward o that..:) Naughty smile...hehehee

Oh I’ll probable blog about this on Monday .... I seem to have a negative attitude when it comes to Mothers day.. This is on Sunday 8 May 2011..

This is my beef.

I’m a mother to a wonderful baby boy... love him to bits... but I feel it’s sad/bitter when the father of your child does not acknowledge this day.

I don’t remember getting anything special/even not special for mother’s day from my "baby daddy"= BD and yes I fully understand that he does not have to give me anything cos , we are not together, but I would think we want to teach our son to celebrate these sort of days from an early age.. So as to show him love from both side.. Just to show him that we are not enemies but two individuals who have crossed paths in a significant way...

Last year I bought "BD" a present for father’s day and I made my son scribble on it so it could have a personal touch... I did not do it coz I had received a present for mother’s day (which had already passed, but because... I wanted my son to take part in celebrating the day and show sum love to his dad.

So with all of that said , I sometimes get annoyed that "BD" does not see things my way... I’m not say he must get me a diamond necklys, imp just asking for a piece of paper with my son's hand writing written happy mother’s day....

Beside all the drama... I do wish all of the mothers, sisters, friends a lovely mother’s day....

Being a mother is a blessing... in more way than you can imagine........

Nginithanda noke emakhaya....